Since we are in the middle of a move this week...
I've decided to take a different route with this Wednesday's post. Hope you enjoy it !
Here we go....
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Dear teenage Ashley,
There is so much I wish I could tell you.
You really do think you're always right don't you?
You think you know everything there is to know about growing up and living your "adult life" right?
Well, my girl, you are
so wrong !
Even at 26, you are still learning new things about that "adult life" of yours. So how about you stop thinking you know it all and listen to some of the advice being given to you.
Go a little easier on your step-father - okay? He was put into your life for a reason. He makes your mama happy, and he truly is a great father figure. So let him be just that. Be polite to him, trust him, because he really is always looking out for what's best for you.
Take more pictures, be the girl that carries her camera around everywhere she goes. Don't delete pictures because you think "you look fat" or your having a "bad hair day". Those are tiny memories you get to keep forever. Memories of your friends you can always have. Trust me, despite the fact you think these girls will be your BFF's for life, you may be wrong. People do actually drift apart after being given that precious diploma. So, cherish every single girl talk, sleep over, and embarrassing teenage moment because before you know it, they are all just distant memories you wish you could "relive" when you are having a bad "adult" day.
Really, really appreciate your mama, tell her more often how you feel about her. Sometimes she needs it, she has bad days too. She needs to know she is doing an amazing job at raising you and your brother. Thank her for letting you have the car for school despite only have one vehicle. Thank her for giving YOU the master bedroom, so you can have sleepovers with your friends, while she shared a room with your brother. You know, she really didn't have to do that, lots of other teenagers share rooms with their siblings, it
ain't that bad! You've got one good mama on your hands, so let her know, okay ?
Stop worrying about having all the latest name brand clothing, because in 10 years they won't matter. You'll realise that material items are worth nothing compared to the love you have with your little family. Besides, in 2011, anything is in style, brand name or not, you can wear it all.
Don't talk about others behind their back. It makes you ugly. There is far too much bullying going on behind closed doors, and this isn't helping it. "Those" people you are taking badly about may have it harder than what you know. So stop it, it's rude anyway. Smile and say hello to them instead, you may even make their day.
Remember people's names, I know, even at 26 you are horrible at this. But try harder. Use their name when you talk to them, you'll be surprised at how much of a difference it makes.
Who cares if you aren't the most popular girl in school. There are far more important things in your life. In 10 years being the most popular girl in high school will mean zip. I swear.
Really, REALLY appreciate the fact you can put 3$ worth of gas in the car and see the needle move....a lot. Because believe me, things change.
Don't cut your hair into that short crazy hairdo right after graduation because you think "Britney Spears rocks it, why can't I?". Truth is, you really can't. So, just dont' do it.
Keep writing in your diary. Don't stop at 5 journals. It's not enough. I promise, you will LOVE reading through these when you are in your mid twenties. Memories, remember.
Stop eating those "poutines" in a bag everyday at lunch. Despite the fact they taste like pure heaven, they are bad for you. Enough with the extra cheese and gravy. Enough.
Stop worrying about what people say about you, who cares if everyone at school isn't your biggest fan. Don't let it hurt your feelings. People will always have something to say, good or bad. It's life. You'll be fine. I promise.
Listen to your mom when she tells you not to dye your hair. PLEASE listen to her. She is right, your hair will never be the same. I know you don't think so now, but your natural hair colour
is beautiful. So please, keep it.
Keep up the calls to Nanny & Poppy every week. Those are 5 minutes out of your "busy teenage day" you will never regret. Ever. They aren't around forever...
Go to your Nanny's funeral. Your gut feeling was right, you
will always regret it.
Stop worrying about what boy to date next. Who cares if you are "single" for more than a week.
You know the perfect boy you always picture yourself with?
The boy of your dreams,
The boy you could find in every single one of your favorite TV shows,
The boy who every night throws rocks at your window just so he can see you,
The boy that always seems to say the right thing at the right time,
The boy who plays lots of sports,
The boy who is every high school girl's dreams to be with.
Yeah him.
Well you marry that boy.
Actually, you marry an even better version of that boy. Better, than any Backstreet Boy, Dawson's Creek character or Much Music VJ. I swear. You do.
"If I knew then what I know now" really is a great quote.
But, if this were true then you wouldn't have grown into the adult you are today.
Everyone makes mistakes and takes things for granted when they shouldn't. So relax, enjoy the little moments and stop being so hard on yourself, you are only human remember. I promise, you will love the life you make for yourself, as it is filled with lots of love, a perfect little family, 2 boys you love more than you ever thought was possible, and many great friends that hold a huge part in your heart.
Love,
The mid 20's Ashley.
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That sums up Wednesday's post !
Come back Friday :)
Bye.Cya